If you own any entertainment devices, you know the song “let it go” was the unofficial theme song of 2014! While Elsa speaks of letting go in a different manner, I just wanted to share my thoughts on learning to let it go in regards to relationships that may be crippling your life. Whether it is personal or professional, romantic or platonic, many of us struggle with learning to let go. I’m referring to the relationships that have intoxicated your life and even when you know you want to stop feeling this way, you have yet to muster the courage to say enough and walk away from them. If you are like me, they affect every aspect of your life including your mood, your attitude, and completely fill you with negativity that ultimately take your joy away and prevent you from living your glam life! All the while, the culprit is living his/her life totally unaffected while you are working on giving yourself a coronary!
This is particularly hard in our personal relationships as they are usually marked by many memories and were formed many years ago. There is a sense of guilt that takes over our minds for even thinking of ending the relationship even when we know that removing it would mean peace of mind. Instead, we have conditioned our minds and bodies to deal with the stress rather than to take action. Women do this best as we are nurturers by nature and tend to always extend the courtesy of understanding others when they deserve to be cut out of our lives. Through many deep conversations with a few of my girlfriends, I’ve recently compiled the following tips to help me overcome my “fear” of letting go and I hope you will find them useful:
– Take some time to think about the problem, analyze and talk it out with a trusted friend if needed – don’t just give it a passing thought, really think it through. If it was an issue with a mere acquaintance, you would have quickly decided to either cut them loose or it simply would not have mattered. Therefore, out of respect for the length of the relationship, I advise you take sufficient time to reflect on the relationship and its issues. If you have someone close to you with whom you can share details, talk it out and listen to their feedback.
– Once you have thoroughly analyzed the issue, make a decision – analyzing an issue with no solution resolves nothing. So once you have considered all of the options, choose wisely the one that you feel best meets your needs and will have the most positive effect on your quality of life.
– Take action! – this will be the hardest part of this exercise however your life will change for the better once that decision is made! There is something liberating about making a conscientious decision and the way you feel once you’ve implemented it in your life! If you reflected long and hard prior to coming to your decision, once you take action, you will feel like you removed a major burden off of your shoulders.
Remember, these tips are to help you declutter your mental space as I strongly believe that your mental state will definitely affect your outlook on everything around you including how you take care of yourself physically. It will slow you down and prevent you from reaching your full potential. In no way should any of these decisions be made out of malice but rather in a hope to better your life. So, keep your eyes on your main goal and anything negative that is standing in your way of reaching that dream: LET IT GO! And if you need some help to motivate you, I suggest that you simply put on that catchy tune and sing along with Elsa, it will surely put a smile on your face and give you a start!
Tomorrow is not promised, so enjoy today and make it your best!