Know Your Worth!

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, an oldie R&B song by Otis Redding made famous by Aretha Franklin in 1967 is probably one of our go to music when we feel disrespected or whenever we are want to heighten our confidence. However, how many of us once the tune has stopped can truly say that we truly understand our self-worth? While it is easy for us to simply say that we know we are valuable or priceless, do we truly know what it means to actually know our worth?
To start to decipher this concept of self-worth, I think it is important to break it into two categories: personal and professional. This separation is only done to help establish the definitions but in no way does it separate one from the other. While both the personal and professional make up our overall self-worth, many of us have only been able to master one aspect and few are those who have mastered both.
Personal self-worth can be identified as the knowledge of what we bring to the table as individuals. Whether it is your reliability, honesty, intelligence, caring nature, or your ability to put a smile on others’ faces; these aspects of your character help you embrace and understand your contribution to those around you. While personal self-worth can affect one’s self-esteem, it is not necessarily a great indicator of how one views himself/herself. However with most of us, the more valued we feel by those around us, the more positive effect it will have on our self-esteem.
Professional self-worth is easier to describe and is the value that you hold as a professional. This is closely related to your education, training, and most of all experience. It grows over time but unfortunately, some of us never realize our contribution to the workplace until we receive recognition or simply realize that we have a lot more knowledge (and sometimes education) than members of the leadership team.
Overall, whether it is in our personal or professional life, we must learn to acknowledge our worth. There is nothing worse than witnessing someone get taken advantage of. Whether at work or in a personal relationship, it is imperative that we constantly reevaluate whether we are currently as happy as we would like to be and to be honest with ourselves and admit when we deserve better and work towards obtaining better. Knowing your worth leads to higher confidence and self-esteem. When you recognize your self-worth, you must also act accordingly in order to uphold a higher standard which will dictate how others will view and treat you. After all, whether we recognize it or not, people are only able to treat us as good/bad as we are allowing them to.
I hope this article will help motivate you to want to reach a higher level of happiness in life and discover yourself and establish your own self-worth. When you do, be sure to never forget it!

Reese

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Stepping out of your comfort zone with your wardrobe

How many of us can describe our personal style of dress in less than five minutes? While it might be a mix of fit, colors, length, and possibly a few designers; we all can pretty much define our personal style in a quick conversation. However, have you taken a closer look at your wardrobe to realize that the majority of your closet is a) predominantly of one shade of color, or b) there is not much variety in the styles or patterns? We tend to be creatures of habit and while there is nothing wrong with that, sometimes it’s good to step out just a tad out of your comfort zone and experiment a bit with different styles. Fashion is ever changing but your style is unique and you should be able to learn how to incorporate various pieces into your wardrobe and make it fit. No matter your style, here are three tips on how to step out of your comfort zone:

  1. Add color: let’s face it, our closet is mostly full of clothes in our favorite color and various shades of said color! Next time you’re shopping, conscientiously pick a color that is opposite to those that you tend to gravitate towards. If you tend to wear dark colors, start by picking a white article of clothing or a pastel one and slowly move towards something brighter over time. Rome was not built in a day, and neither will your acceptance of bright colors. At first, it will be best to try to simply pair a dark color with a lighter one until you feel comfortable with lighter tones.
  2. Experiment with fabrics: curious about the leather look but unsure that you want to wear a pair of leather pants? Try a pair of pants with leather trim! Find an article of clothing that incorporates an edgier fabric without being too out of your comfort zone. Whether it is lace, leather, or crinoline, just be sure to keep the rest of your outfit simple so that the statement piece stands out best.
  3. Accessorize: the best part of accessories is that most of the time they are less expensive (unless your statement is diamonds), and are even easier to incorporate in your outfit. Accessories are also an economical way to keep up with the trends. Remember when neon colors and leopard prints were the rave? Imagine if you had flooded your closet with tons of pieces from that trend? However, if you purchased a neon pink belt, you’re still able to pair it with a cute outfit without looking “fashionably outdated”.

Overall, the goal should be for you to continually find ways to keep your wardrobe looking stylish and trendy all the while taking risks and stepping out of your comfort zone. It’s nice to occasionally take part of a trend without compromising your personal style. In the end, you want to be comfortable in whatever outfit you pick, and knowing how to properly include a few of the latest fashion trends into your wardrobe is key to establishing your own style.

Have fun!

Reese

Saying no does not make you a bad person!

Do you continually find yourself in situations that you really should have avoided but felt compelled to say yes? Then you are just like me! So many of us are always afraid of saying no because we feel some kind of obligation to always want to please others even if that means that it will be to our detriment. We always want to be available and sometimes it does not always turn out for the best. While there are many reasons why saying no does not make you a bad person, I’ve selected the following three instances as reasons why sometimes it is good to say no:

  1. You’re spreading yourself thin – if you already have a busy schedule, saying yes when you should be saying no would cause for you to spread yourself thin and ultimately every aspect in your life will suffer including this task that you felt obligated to take on! In a work environment, this can be very serious and may even cause for your leadership team to view you in a negative light. In a personal setting, you risk to create tension between you and your loved ones if said task is not completed to the level expected.
  2. You are in over your head – whether professional or personal, you should never take on a task that you know that you are clearly not qualified to complete. There could be so many repercussions and professionally this can even lead to negative reviews and in some cases, your termination. Be true to yourself and know your limits, no one has the answer to everything and can do all things; so if you are really interested in helping, maybe you can volunteer to help find someone best suited to complete the task and offer your assistance to that person.
  3. You are taking time out of your personal time – yes, you read it right! Everyone deserves to have some type out of the week (preferably out of the day) slated just for you. Whether you decide to rest and catch on your sleep, or simply indulge in your favorite activity such as cooking, reading, or Netflix binge watching: it’s your time! Depriving yourself of this special time is cutting out some relaxation time for your mind and body to reset. While others may not understand it, don’t allow yourself to be guilted into doing something when you already had planned to spend that time on you.

No matter the reason, most of the time when we say no, it is not out of contempt. There is usually a reason and you are not obligated to state your reason, as that usually gives the other person an opening to try to convince you and thus make the situation increasingly uncomfortable. Keep in mind that you reserve the right to decline to participate in any activity/event at any time, provided it is an option. Life is about choices, and you should not let others make you feel bad for exercising that right. While it is your right to decline, be sure that you are doing so in a polite and respectful manner because ultimately, it is usually the delivery of your response that earns you the negative labels.

Cheers,

Reese