Know Your Worth!

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, an oldie R&B song by Otis Redding made famous by Aretha Franklin in 1967 is probably one of our go to music when we feel disrespected or whenever we are want to heighten our confidence. However, how many of us once the tune has stopped can truly say that we truly understand our self-worth? While it is easy for us to simply say that we know we are valuable or priceless, do we truly know what it means to actually know our worth?
To start to decipher this concept of self-worth, I think it is important to break it into two categories: personal and professional. This separation is only done to help establish the definitions but in no way does it separate one from the other. While both the personal and professional make up our overall self-worth, many of us have only been able to master one aspect and few are those who have mastered both.
Personal self-worth can be identified as the knowledge of what we bring to the table as individuals. Whether it is your reliability, honesty, intelligence, caring nature, or your ability to put a smile on others’ faces; these aspects of your character help you embrace and understand your contribution to those around you. While personal self-worth can affect one’s self-esteem, it is not necessarily a great indicator of how one views himself/herself. However with most of us, the more valued we feel by those around us, the more positive effect it will have on our self-esteem.
Professional self-worth is easier to describe and is the value that you hold as a professional. This is closely related to your education, training, and most of all experience. It grows over time but unfortunately, some of us never realize our contribution to the workplace until we receive recognition or simply realize that we have a lot more knowledge (and sometimes education) than members of the leadership team.
Overall, whether it is in our personal or professional life, we must learn to acknowledge our worth. There is nothing worse than witnessing someone get taken advantage of. Whether at work or in a personal relationship, it is imperative that we constantly reevaluate whether we are currently as happy as we would like to be and to be honest with ourselves and admit when we deserve better and work towards obtaining better. Knowing your worth leads to higher confidence and self-esteem. When you recognize your self-worth, you must also act accordingly in order to uphold a higher standard which will dictate how others will view and treat you. After all, whether we recognize it or not, people are only able to treat us as good/bad as we are allowing them to.
I hope this article will help motivate you to want to reach a higher level of happiness in life and discover yourself and establish your own self-worth. When you do, be sure to never forget it!

Reese

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Let it Go!

If you own any entertainment devices, you know the song “let it go” was the unofficial theme song of 2014! While Elsa speaks of letting go in a different manner, I just wanted to share my thoughts on learning to let it go in regards to relationships that may be crippling your life. Whether it is personal or professional, romantic or platonic, many of us struggle with learning to let go. I’m referring to the relationships that have intoxicated your life and even when you know you want to stop feeling this way, you have yet to muster the courage to say enough and walk away from them. If you are like me, they affect every aspect of your life including your mood, your attitude, and completely fill you with negativity that ultimately take your joy away and prevent you from living your glam life! All the while, the culprit is living his/her life totally unaffected while you are working on giving yourself a coronary!
This is particularly hard in our personal relationships as they are usually marked by many memories and were formed many years ago. There is a sense of guilt that takes over our minds for even thinking of ending the relationship even when we know that removing it would mean peace of mind. Instead, we have conditioned our minds and bodies to deal with the stress rather than to take action. Women do this best as we are nurturers by nature and tend to always extend the courtesy of understanding others when they deserve to be cut out of our lives. Through many deep conversations with a few of my girlfriends, I’ve recently compiled the following tips to help me overcome my “fear” of letting go and I hope you will find them useful:
– Take some time to think about the problem, analyze and talk it out with a trusted friend if needed – don’t just give it a passing thought, really think it through. If it was an issue with a mere acquaintance, you would have quickly decided to either cut them loose or it simply would not have mattered. Therefore, out of respect for the length of the relationship, I advise you take sufficient time to reflect on the relationship and its issues. If you have someone close to you with whom you can share details, talk it out and listen to their feedback.
– Once you have thoroughly analyzed the issue, make a decision – analyzing an issue with no solution resolves nothing. So once you have considered all of the options, choose wisely the one that you feel best meets your needs and will have the most positive effect on your quality of life.
– Take action! – this will be the hardest part of this exercise however your life will change for the better once that decision is made! There is something liberating about making a conscientious decision and the way you feel once you’ve implemented it in your life! If you reflected long and hard prior to coming to your decision, once you take action, you will feel like you removed a major burden off of your shoulders.
Remember, these tips are to help you declutter your mental space as I strongly believe that your mental state will definitely affect your outlook on everything around you including how you take care of yourself physically. It will slow you down and prevent you from reaching your full potential. In no way should any of these decisions be made out of malice but rather in a hope to better your life. So, keep your eyes on your main goal and anything negative that is standing in your way of reaching that dream: LET IT GO! And if you need some help to motivate you, I suggest that you simply put on that catchy tune and sing along with Elsa, it will surely put a smile on your face and give you a start!

Tomorrow is not promised, so enjoy today and make it your best!
Reese