Know Your Worth!

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, an oldie R&B song by Otis Redding made famous by Aretha Franklin in 1967 is probably one of our go to music when we feel disrespected or whenever we are want to heighten our confidence. However, how many of us once the tune has stopped can truly say that we truly understand our self-worth? While it is easy for us to simply say that we know we are valuable or priceless, do we truly know what it means to actually know our worth?
To start to decipher this concept of self-worth, I think it is important to break it into two categories: personal and professional. This separation is only done to help establish the definitions but in no way does it separate one from the other. While both the personal and professional make up our overall self-worth, many of us have only been able to master one aspect and few are those who have mastered both.
Personal self-worth can be identified as the knowledge of what we bring to the table as individuals. Whether it is your reliability, honesty, intelligence, caring nature, or your ability to put a smile on others’ faces; these aspects of your character help you embrace and understand your contribution to those around you. While personal self-worth can affect one’s self-esteem, it is not necessarily a great indicator of how one views himself/herself. However with most of us, the more valued we feel by those around us, the more positive effect it will have on our self-esteem.
Professional self-worth is easier to describe and is the value that you hold as a professional. This is closely related to your education, training, and most of all experience. It grows over time but unfortunately, some of us never realize our contribution to the workplace until we receive recognition or simply realize that we have a lot more knowledge (and sometimes education) than members of the leadership team.
Overall, whether it is in our personal or professional life, we must learn to acknowledge our worth. There is nothing worse than witnessing someone get taken advantage of. Whether at work or in a personal relationship, it is imperative that we constantly reevaluate whether we are currently as happy as we would like to be and to be honest with ourselves and admit when we deserve better and work towards obtaining better. Knowing your worth leads to higher confidence and self-esteem. When you recognize your self-worth, you must also act accordingly in order to uphold a higher standard which will dictate how others will view and treat you. After all, whether we recognize it or not, people are only able to treat us as good/bad as we are allowing them to.
I hope this article will help motivate you to want to reach a higher level of happiness in life and discover yourself and establish your own self-worth. When you do, be sure to never forget it!

Reese

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Overcoming a Negative Work Environment

With the various shifts happening in the professional world throughout major companies, more and more adults are facing a lot of tension in the workplace which has been increasing the level of stress amongst working adults. From fear of losing employment to dealing with hostile coworkers to working for a supervisor who does not appreciate you, today’s adults have a lot more challenges in the workplace and at times may feel like the negativity of the environment might get the best of them. Having been in a similar situation recently, I know that such an experience can not only add a lot of stress to your life but will also affect the following: sleep, appetite, and self-esteem!
In my excruciating experience, I went through many effects of stress that many would not think were possible. You are overcome by a sense of fear that truly is unsettling and simply will literally keep you up at night and paralyze you to the point that you could spend all day focusing on these factors. Your relationship with food will fluctuate from binge eating to losing all appetite and having to remind yourself that food is essential to living. Finally, along with these two effects, you will lose interest in doing most of the mundane activities in your daily life such as household chores and eventually you may end up in a depression and questioning your purpose in life.
In the middle of all of these emotions, as the saying goes – “life goes on…”, and as much as you are aware of that fact, it’s almost impossible for you to shake the feeling as walking into work every day become a constant reminder and an internal battle to try to motivate yourself to stay active and positive. It is hard to achieve amidst all the stress but it is very important that you keep your morale up and avoid falling deeper into depression. While I’m not an expert in any way, the following helped me overcome this hard time in my professional life:
– Keep yourself entertained: throughout the day, I always kept my earbuds on (well one because you still want to be able to hear your phone or colleagues when you’re being addressed) and had some kind of entertainment going on. I made music video playlists on YouTube, had various comedy stations and music genre stations on Pandora which I’d alternate depending on the one that best suited my mood for the day.
– Attract positivity: surround yourself with positive people, find some time to reflect and find peace. If you are religious, pray like you have never before! If not, find the most amount of activities that put a smile on your face and do them! The key is to keep yourself positively entertain to chase away the feelings of depression.
– Keep busy: go to the movies, spend some time with friends and family to uplift your mood. If you are an avid reader, take a trip to your nearest bookstore and purchase a couple of good books. If you’re into cooking, painting, crafts: find some time to dedicate to that passion.
– Market yourself: if you haven’t done so, revamp your resume and build your professional brand on the appropriate social media professional platforms such as LinkedIn. Be sure to be grammatically correct and use proper punctuations in your resume and letters of interest and send them out to positions you may be interested in and also to head hunters. You’ll never know what could have been unless you try!
– Rediscover yourself: search for that fire that you have continually repressed due to obligations or reality and explore it! Whether it’s a longtime dream to learn to sew or you’ve always wanted to start your own fitness program, just focus on that dream of yours and work as hard as you’ve ever worked to turn it into reality!
Overall, the goal is for you to keep yourself busy and surrounded with as much positivity through your professional ordeal. In the end, it will help you come out as the victor no matter what the final outcome in your workplace. You will learn so much about your strength and about yourself. Being positive will help you serve as your best cheerleader when it seems like no one is appreciating your intellectual value and will help you rediscover this person that slowly was starting to wither due to the oppression you’ve been subject to in your workplace.
Keep a positive spirit, and as they say “this too shall pass…”, just be sure to hold on tight and never let anything or anyone take your smile away from you.
Reese